Parents : Look from the other side

Parents. The word has been eulogised umpteen times in books and movies. The general perception is that parents means goodness. But this is not the case always.

To understand things better let us get our fundas clear without being sentimental. What are parents supposed to do. They are supposed give birth to kids and then look after till they grow up. Man is an animal too. He has this primal urge to procreate. So children are born.

Again the maternal instinct of the mother takes over. It looks after the fledgelings. The father provides the 'bread'. Like in birds. The male goes out and brings insects to feed the chicks and the female bird.

So we see all this is primeval stuff. There is no humanity involved. Most animals do it too. Society has no problem with this as these norms gives stabiility. Where else would the kids grow up? In houses run by the state? Most governments do not have resources to do that. So the parents look after the kids, feed them, pay for their education.

And what do they get in return? Love and affection from the grown up kids. This would be the ideal case. But in real life the ideal is hardly seen.

Many parents want to procreate but do not want to take responsibility for the kids growing up. I guess every human is not like the birds. Some are like those animals that feed on their offsprings. Check out Animal Planet. I am not kidding. This would the case of fathers raping their own daughters. Remember that Austrian old guy who kept his daughter locked up in the cellar for many years, had sex with her and had numerous children from her. This is the case of society rules not working.

They do not work most of the time. How many parents are all love and understanding? Very few. Most are like, "we gave birth to you, fed you and paid for your school fees. We have done you a big favour! Don't ever forget that."

What the hell! We have no say in the matter. We did not ask for our birth. We did not ask for being fed and having the school fees paid! Then why is this 'contract' thrust upon the kid?

Most of the time, the parents do not make the effort to understand their kid. They are not understanding and are not there when the kid needed them the most. Lousy job of parenting, I would say!

The kid has no other option but to stay in the parent's home. The parents thrust their expectations (mostly unreasonable) on the poor kid. They also thrust their weaknesses, fears and neuroses on the kid. Most kids grow up psyched, especially in Asian countries, where parental control is total.

Who cares a fig for the kid? Nobody! All this sucks! Life is unfair.